Is life getting you down? Do you go through days feeling on top of things only to have it come crashing down the next? Berating yourself in your mind, making your stomach sick with worrying, all the while irritation eeks out in bursts of crabbiness to those you love. Perhaps you set goals with intentions to do better only to have them fall by the wayside. Then the compulsive eating, social media binging, avoidance of life, or addictions come back once again. Sometimes you want desperately to numb it all out. Or maybe you are screaming under your skin to no longer feel numb to the world? Does any of this sound familiar? It is ok if it does. You are not alone. Therapy can be a useful tool to gain clarity on what is happening. Through counseling, you can learn how to move past the chaos or at the very least manage it better. I hope you reach out so we can see what type of progress can be made in your life. I'm ready. Are you?
WHAT IF MY ISSUES ARE WITH MY MARRIAGE?
My favorite approach with couples is individual sessions and I'll tell you why: most couple therapy sessions are unproductive. Often one partner is dragged there by the other--yes I'm talking about you the one reading this website. If this is not you, but the one being dragged- don't worry I usually don't bite and I probably don't agree that your issues are the ones causing all the misery. Many couples spend a majority of their effort in session trying to shine the spot light on their partner's flaws hoping to escape any real work themselves. Nothing against you, it's simply human nature. However, with individual sessions, we are able to create goals specific to each partner, focus on your own work, and make changes the only way they can happen which is from WITHIN. For couples I suggest weekly 50 minute sessions for both partners. You are welcome to invite your partner to your session as an emotional support or witness to your process. After each partner stabilizes emotionally then switching to every other week and/or joint couple sessions are a possibility. Newly weds are sometimes able to move to joint sessions sooner as they typically have less relational trauma built up. If only one partner is ready to do therapy work, no worries. You can make an impact on your relationship through your work. Perhaps your partner will join when they are ready.